... im doing a bit of research for yours.  My advice on the subject is quite difficult to put into words.  I will get back to you as soon as i can figure it all out.  Sorry for the inconvenience.  Work is a beast lately.
                                                                                                               Always,
                                                                                                                        Mali

      I hope Im doing an okay job at answering your entries.  I hope they have helped you deal with things and look at solving situations from a different angle.  I just wanted to let you all know that most of my advice can be published on the weekdays, up to 3 days after i get one of your entries.  Weekends are a tough time to get on the comp., so if you submit an entry on a friday, dont think i forgot about you, but i will most likely answer it on the monday or tuesday after the weekend.  All entries get advice, I wont forget about you.  Also, im starting a summer job soon, so if i slack off on my advice, tell me!!  Tell me if im giving stupid advice.  I want to give you all the best advice i can give.  I will post little notes like this about my vacations and stuff like that too.  And occasionally i might ask you to reflect upon my work... like now.. :).. so people, how am i doing?  Is my advice easy to follow?  Id appreciate any comments you have toward this.
                                                                                                            Thanks,
                                                                                                               Always,
                                                                                                                        Mali

... different girls like different hair styles on guys.  Its not like they all like one style.  If you want to go for the bad boy look, long is most likely the way to go.  It makes you look a little rougher and tougher.  Whereas, short hair tends to be more neat and kept/presentable looking.  Some girls go for these guys as well.  Maybe they were staring because of the fact you got a hair cut; it doesnt have to be because it looks better or worse.
If girls' attention is that important to you, then i would say keep the style.  But if you yourself do not like it, dont suffer to make others happy. 

Try This:  You could take a sort of humorous survey from your friends and family regarding your new "do".  Ask them if they think you are more likely to be a "ladies man", or if they liked it better before.  Dont drive people crazy with this though.  Only ask enough people so that you feel you have gotten the answer you wanted.
                                                                                                            Always,
                                                                                                                     Mali

... first ask yourself if this aquaintance of yours has any reason for being mean to you.  Did you treat her badly before?  Did you harm her in any way (physical or emotional)?  Before blaming someone for their actions, put yourself in their "shoes", using as much information as you know about them.  Then if it still seems that she is the bad guy here, ask yourself why you have feelings for her.  You mentioned she was "very pretty".  Is it just her looks?  If this is the case, you are liking her by the wrong means.  Dont waste your love on a "pretty" someone who treats you poorly.  Everyone deserves to be treated fairly.  Looks can be extremely decieving.  Extremely.  This applies to you and her.  Whether a beautiful cover with ribbon and lace or an ugly tattered one with immperfections, you should read a bit of the book's contents before you decide to rate it. 

As far as "winning her over" (as you put it), you really need to talk with her.  Help her to understand you.  Perhaps if you explained more about the way you go about things, she would have less reason to be mean to you.  Did you ever find that the more you know about someone, the harder it is to put them down, or pick a fight with them?  If you do, then use this knowledge.  I believe that neither one of you is the "bad guy".  Both of you just happen to be confused by each other at the same time, which is complicating things a bit.  If you both learn to understand each other, you will have a higher chance of "winning her over".  Or, if you both realize the other is a jerk, then you will both be able to move on, instead of being bogged down by confusion.

Try This:  Increase the amount of talking you two do.  In which, slip a few sweet phrases to kind of butter her up.  Talking is a great tool for making her realize you are a good guy and dont mean to make her mad at you.  It is also good for promoting your position in her life from "aquaintance" to "friend".   Allow her to share things with you and support her.  Tell her that it is hurtful when she treats you negatively.  (If she gets angry at this, move on from her.  This is when you know it is not worth the time and pain.)  After this she will most likely appologize for her mistake, and you would start again with a clean plate.  To make the moment a little more to your liking, now would be an awesome time for a hug.  Hugs work wonders.  Possibly even more than kisses.  A hug lets her know that you care for her and are quite satisfied without any other intimacy.  Girls love that.  :) 
                                                                                                         Always,
                                                                                                                  Mali

... guys can be wierd like that.  (sorry guys)  Once you think you know what they are thinking, everything changes.  Its natural and quite common.  The situation could have been because of one of two things: either he just wanted a physical, no-strings-attached relationship or he just didnt want to get attached.  If he was looking for the physical, and then found out you had feelings for him, he was probably thinking that it couldnt be what he wanted, so he "ran away" to find another hot babe.  If he didnt want to get attached to you, perhaps he has a good reason.  If you believe this could be the case, you should talk with him.  See if you can squeeze out some reasoning.  Some guys are very privite and it is extremely difficult to figure out what they are thinking.  Yet, other guys are very straight forward with who they are, and no one needs to play a guessing game.  This guy seems very complicated; it could take a while for you to get him to tell you what his is thinking/feeling towards the situation.  If he doesnt allow you to talk with him and try to regain the "flame", then id have to say, you might want to move on, and seek flames elsewhere.

Try This:  If you are quite friendly and have the patience, you could use your body language.  Whenever you are around him, try just sending a smile his way or nudging him as you walk by.  This would let him know you are still interested.  But dont come off as too forward.  (Dont attempt to start a whole fire.)  If he feels the same way, he will probably use body language back, and then possibly try to talk to you.  Mind you, this is only if you wish to keep this particular flame alive.

... you should definitely tell your friends, well, at least the ones you trust most.  Thats what friends are for.  They will support you, maybe give you tips from their experiences with girls, and assist you in going forward with this girl.  If your friends really respect your wishes, they will not tell the girl.  You also need to let them know that you are serious about them not telling her.  Tell them how much you trust them.  But, if somehow she does find out, do not hide it!  That will just confuse her and then she most likely wont stick around to hear you out.  If she approaches you and asks if you like her, say "Yes." with as much confidence and maturity as you can.  There are so many different reactions to this, but hopefully you get a positive one.  Still, its a lot better than denying it and confusing her. 

Try This:  If you find yourself stuttering or bowing your head or something else that displays that you are shy, just do your best to laugh.  Laughing is more contageous than chicken pox.  If you start laughing, chances are she will too and both of you will probably forget whatever display of shy-ness you just put on.
                                                                                                             Always,
                                                                                                                       Mali

... i know im going to sound like a mom here, but you are unique.  You have your own personality, attitude, appearance; no one can be just like you.  You could have strange similarities with this girl (that apparently make you want to hurl), but if shes not you then she is not you.  If this girl wants to be just like you, maybe she admires the way you go about things, maybe you are her "role model".  Dont be all frazzled by her.  Take it as a compliment. If it really bothers you and you cant find a positive way to deal with it, there is something you can do...

Try This:  Use a serious tone while talking to her about the situation.  Explain to her that it bothers you and you would really like it to stop.  If she admires you as much as it seems she does, then she will respect your wishes and cease to "copycat" you.
                                                                                                               Always,
                                                                                                                         Mali

... first you really need to gain some self confidence.  Take the phrases "computer geek", "no life", "no friends", and "looks not best quality" out of your vocabulary.  Thats all nonsense.  If you say you are/have those things, then you do.  Saying them, makes you believe them.  You mustnt put yourself down or other people will too.  Confidence will also help you "with the ladies".  Girls like a guy with a good amount of confidence.  Also, everyone has friends!  They might also be what you call "computer geeks", but im sure you have them nevertheless.  Try talking to them more about... everything.  Include them in your life more.  Hopefully this will also boost your confidence.  Looks are not everything.  Having good looks doesnt necessarily make you attractive.  There are many other qualities that make a guy charming and you most likely have at least a few, if not all; intelligence, humor, ability to listen, strength (both emotionally and physically), creativity, etc. 

So about this girl, is she your friend or do you suppose it is "love at first sight"?  Somewhere in the middle?  If she is already your friend, then maybe you have liked her for a while.  Then, she would know the way you go about things and just how you are.  She would understand your feelings and support you.  If you have only seen this girl and know nothing about her, i know you dont want to hear this, but you might have to take it slow.  Ease your way into her life.  If you know her a little, but not much about her, it depends on if she knows you.

Try This:  If this girl is a friend, do something unexpected and a little out of the ordinary, perhaps even a little out of your "comfort zone".  Dont be too drastic, but let it be a little risky.  There is always the chance that she will react negatively, but most likely she will be shocked, and pleasantly surprised to see what confidence you have.  Sounds like you just need to find a few balances in things.
                If you only know her a little, you might want to just talk to her more.  Not too much, but just enough to let her know you exist and are there for her.  Once a girl knows that she has a shoulder to lean on, there is the start of something and newfound trust.  It could just be friendship, but it could also lead to more. 
                For your confidence and ego, write down all your friends and number them 1 to how many you have.  I think you will be quite happy to see that that number is higher than zero.  :)  Then, go down the list and and write a memory you had with that friend next to their name.  This will show that youve had some good times and boost your confidence.
                                                                                                      Always,
                                                                                                               Mali
               

... every guy has their own "way with the ladies", that is, their advantage when they are around girls.  Maybe yours isnt looks, but perhaps humor, a way with words, cleverness, creativity, etc.  All guys have charm, just different levels of it.  Its kind of like instinct, i would imagine.  You just need to find yours and polish it up a bit.  Just a little tip... most girls like a humorous guy, someone they can laugh at, and who wont get mad when they do; someone they can joke around with.  When a guy has humor, looks dont seem to matter as much.
As far as this girl goes, it depends partially on how long you have been "just friends", before you liked her.  Maybe it has been so long that she has grew to only cherish your friendship, without wanting anything more.  It is also possible that she is interested in another guy.  It seems that guys tend to think that the more they "show off" to a girl and show them how awesome they are, the more the girl will like them.  This isnt necessarily true.  Most girls could care less if you could balance five plastic cups on your head or jump over a thick shrub in someone elses gardin.  In fact, some are a little annoyed by it.  If she hasnt told you that by now, it probably means shes a fairly quiet girl, who wont openly display her feelings to you or anyone else.  You are either thinking a little on the negative side or too positively; try somewhere in the middle to get her attention.

Try This:  For a couple weeks, try avoiding her or simply just letting a "Hi" escape your lips in her presence.  Be consistant or this will not work right.  This will either make her miss you and ask where the "old you" went, or give you a chance to figure out whether you truely have feelings for her or its just a childish crush.  It might also help you to move on from her to other girls, if neither you nor her feel any sort of spark between you.  Time is a precious tool for thought and healing.  It will give both of you a chance to think.  After the couple weeks, resume your steady friendship, but keep what you learned, during the time, in mind.
                                                                                                               Always,
                                                                                                                         Mali

... some say that "I love you" is eight letters, but then again so is "bullshit".  Those eight letters (in the first quotations) mean nothing if you dont show it.  They are meant to be meaningful, but to have a good relationship, they are not necessarily required.  There are many loving actions that say "I love you" for you.  Dont let your girlfriend push you into saying the phrase if you dont feel you are ready.  If she makes you say it, then she might as well say "bullshit" because it means nothing.  She wants you to say it out of a need for a sign of stability in your relationship.  She probably feels that you are drifting apart or that you dont see each other often enough, so she is looking for some superglue to hold you two together.  It sounds like she doesnt want to lose you either.

Try This:  Show your girlfriend that you love her by doing the little things.  For example, ask her how her day went or how her weekend was.  Most girls love to talk.  Letting her tell you all about it will show that you care.  Another example, if she seems depressed that you wont tell her you love her or anything like that, try sitting her down, holding her hands and just looking into her eyes... until she reacts.  No matter what her reaction, its most likely going to be a good one.  She could laugh, which will lighten the mood.  She could tell you she loves you, in which you then tell her that you would rather wait to say it at a time when you know it will mean the most.  Lastly, she could hug or kiss you, which im sure you'd love.  :)  Only when you feel the time is right and you are certain that you mean it, should you tell her you love her.
                                                                                                               Always,
                                                                                                                         Mali